Emotional Abuse And Toxic People.
“Strong women don’t tolerate anyone treating them badly. You go off on them and yell at them and belittle them, they won’t forgive you so easily. Anyone who has to put others down to make themselves feel better is no one who should be in a relationship in the first place.”
— excerpt, 15 Things Strong Women Don’t Tolerate in a Relationship by Thinker N of MYGREATMINDS.com
I was not a strong woman. But eventually I learned how to spit.
Just because mean people act like emotional vampires and SUCK does not mean their targets are socially obligated to tolerate or overlook things like abuse or neglect. It also does not mean that we have to swallow.
Gaslighting professionals and other forms of civic con artists who are versed in the use of Love Fraud techniques of brainwashing and manipulating want you to think that your internal sun needs to rise and set for their personal use on their foreign horizon but you don’t.
We don’t.
Meaning, the collective WE (as human beings traveling through space and time on this rock) don’t have to accept their flawed logical premises. Nor are we morally compelled to pay the compulsive attention-seeking takers any mind.
Givers without health boundaries are like a sponge. Each takes in fluid from outside our form.
For some of us, we lose the ability to see ourself as individuals with the social and biological abilities to succeed and thrive in life without our birth families. For others, we lose the ability to set and enforce healthy lifestyle choices and implicitly as well as explicitly healthful and ultimately socially and biologically necessary psychological as well as pro-social boundaries.